DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a 20-year-old school pupil, and my mother just lately received engaged to her boyfriend of two years. She’s been a single mother for just about my total life, and I am nervous about her taking this subsequent step. Her boyfriend appears cool, however I actually do not know him all that nicely. I need her to be glad; nevertheless, I am additionally insecure about shedding our closeness. It has been simply the 2 of us for therefore lengthy. How can I be extra accepting of this variation? — Mother and Me
DEAR MOM AND ME: Your mom’s relationship is just one of two vital adjustments that you’re dealing with proper now, even if you happen to do not understand it. You’re turning into an grownup, and it is advisable to step absolutely into that, which signifies that you want to have the ability to be impartial of your mom. Curiously, the truth that she is quickly to be married could also be a superb factor for each of you. Why? As a result of each of it is advisable to uncover be impartial of one another. Chances are high, your mom went by means of one thing like this whenever you went away to varsity. Turning into an empty nester could be devastating to some mother and father.
As an alternative of worrying, decide to welcome this man into the household, to be glad on your mom and to stay near her. Discuss to your mom about your emotions. Sure, your relationship will change, however that was going to occur anyway. Welcome the adjustments.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a Black man dwelling in Ohio. My girlfriend — who’s white — and I’ve been collectively for 3 years and at the moment are discussing marriage, however my mother and father appear to really feel uneasy about this. I requested my fiancee if her mother and father had been snug with it. They mentioned they had been. However for some motive, my mother and father aren’t snug with the thought. After I pressed them on it, they mentioned that there is not any means a white lady would be capable of absolutely perceive me for who I’m. I disagree, however I do not need there to be strife between our households. What do you assume I ought to do? — Household Feud