When a mother was pregnant with a child with Down syndrome, her doctor advised she terminate the being pregnant. Nevertheless, she and her husband strongly held on to their religion and determined to go forward with their being pregnant. Now, their 6-year-old daughter is excelling at school and speaking higher and higher on daily basis.
When Courtney Baker, 49, a mom of three from Central Florida, was pregnant with Emersyn, a prenatal take a look at confirmed that there was a excessive likelihood that Baker and her husband Matt had been anticipating a baby with Down syndrome.
“We had been in shock. We had been devastated, however solely as a result of we had been ignorant to any details on Down syndrome,” Baker instructed The Epoch Instances in an electronic mail interview. “We solely knew the worst-case eventualities, and we had no assist in any respect after we left our OBs workplace. We each felt fully misplaced.”
The OB advised just a few “choices” to the couple in coping with their being pregnant, and even proceeded to guide them an appointment with somebody who would discuss to the couple about their resolution.
“I instructed him that there was no dialogue. She was our little one and we had been going to have her. He appeared stunned and made the appointment for us anyway,” mentioned Baker.
Six weeks later, the couple visited a specialist to examine their daughter’s progress. The physician insisted that they need to give abortion a thought, giving them a dozen causes in order to state his case.
“At that time, we had named her. I instructed him her identify is Emersyn, and we’re maintaining her. He questioned us once more and in future appointments grew to become nearly like a bully,” Baker instructed The Epoch Instances.
The couple expressed that the physician appeared to take pleasure in discovering issues mistaken with their child. “Our final appointment he instructed us she had clubbed toes and he giggled. Matt and I left the workplace figuring out we wouldn’t return,” she mentioned.
Baker and her husband held on to their religion strongly, ignored the exterior pressures, and went forward with the being pregnant, giving beginning to child Emersyn in February 2014.
“Religion completely performed a task in maintaining Emmy,” Baker recalled, wanting again to the selection they made. “I’ve identified the horrors of abortion since I used to be in Excessive College and noticed a documentary on an abortion the place they dismembered the child. I’ll by no means get that picture out of my thoughts.”
Early into their marriage, the couple had mentioned how they’d deal with life with a baby with particular wants. Their firstborn daughter, Rhyan, now 19, was born deaf and obtained cochlear implants at an early age. By that have, the couple noticed they weren’t alone of their journey. “God not solely walked by means of that trial with us however then used Rhyan’s deafness to assist others of their journey,” Baker mentioned.
Baker strongly believes that the expertise with Rhyan helped give the dad and mom energy and the religion that God would assist them with Emersyn’s journey too.
15 months after Emerysn’s beginning, Baker got here throughout a Fb put up by a pal whose prenatal specialist noticed the sonograms of their son with Down syndrome and commented that “he was excellent.” This compelled Baker to pen down a letter to her physician.
“That put up made me understand that there are superb docs on the market who’re supportive and look out for the most effective curiosity of the kid, no matter poor well being or incapacity,” Baker mentioned.
She admitted that although the put up was encouraging, her coronary heart ached as a result of she hadn’t had the identical expertise.
Within the thought-provoking letter to the physician, Baker talked about that she shouldn’t be bitter however simply unhappy that, throughout the darkest days of her life the place she was “terrified, anxious, and in full despair,” she wasn’t given assist and encouragement however moderately was requested to terminate her child.
“I’m unhappy you had been so very mistaken to say a child with Down syndrome would lower our high quality of life. And I’m heartbroken you may need mentioned that to a mommy even right now. However I’m principally unhappy you’ll by no means have the privilege of figuring out my daughter, Emersyn,” Baker wrote.
“I wrote the letter to my physician in order that he would see the reality and prayerfully change his perspective. I wished my letter to vary how he handled future moms who obtain a Down syndrome analysis for his or her child,” Baker instructed The Epoch Instances. “Docs wield a lot energy. He wanted to know the details about Down syndrome if he was going to carry their lives in his arms.”
As for 6-year-old Emerysn, Baker says she is a “pure pleasure,” and her favourite factor is to hug and see folks hug one another. The pleasant little lady loves dancing and her smile is contagious. Her bright-eyed persona has a method to soften the center of even the grumpiest of males, in line with her doting mother.
“The love she exudes makes her an excellent highlight in an ever-darkening world, and it breaks my coronary heart to consider how many individuals are lacking out on what we’ve,” Baker mentioned, describing her lovable daughter who’s all set to hitch kindergarten this fall.
The little lady, who shares a tremendous bond along with her two older sisters, additionally has a powerful reference to folks locally. Baker strongly believes that her Emerysn will change the world with the assistance of the numerous individuals who assist her.
Coming from her personal expertise, Baker advises dad and mom who’re anticipating a baby with Down syndrome that, although the part may make them really feel hopeless or helpless, these feelings will fade by after they meet their child.
“I inform pregnant mothers to take pleasure in their being pregnant, which could be a battle,” mentioned Baker. “My recommendation for folks elevating a baby with Down syndrome is to proceed with assist teams. We perceive one another as dad and mom with youngsters with Down syndrome.
Baker additionally urged each mother with a baby with Down syndrome to share their very own particular person tales within the hope that it could encourage somebody and alter the narrative for the higher.
“I wish to get to a spot in society the place we don’t should combat so laborious to point out that individuals with Down syndrome are simply that—folks. They’ve ideas, feelings, likes, dislikes, and valuable hearts that may be harm, similar to each different human being,” Baker mentioned.
“And similar to each different human being, they deserve life and to be handled with the identical love and respect that we give anybody else.”